You Are Not Selfish If You Say No
Does it feel like you give all of your love to others and if you ask for something yourself or need to say no to a loved one, you feel selfish? You are a loving and caring person and you want to be there for the ones you love. There is nothing wrong with that. There is also nothing wrong with you saying no to a request or asking for something for yourself. You can be both, it isn't one or the other. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I have struggled with this my entire life, I still need to come back to this reminder regularly. The thought of letting someone down who needs me literally hurts my heart. I had to stop and take a look at this though because putting others ahead all of the time was starting to allow resentment and frustration to creep in.
I was feeling these things about people I care about and really, they had no idea because I was holding all of this inside. When I started trying to say no sometimes when I needed time for myself or asking for something that I needed, I was terrified that I would be met with disappointment. I was selling my people short though. They met me with the same kindness and understanding that I was meeting them with. Yes, there are times of disappointment, and those hurt but the sense of balance that I have outweighs that. I am able to give fully when I remember to give to myself too.
When you choose to Live Red you are choosing to remember that it is important to incorporate the things that give you your passion and energy and in doing so, you are able to give more of your best to those you love. If you really want to be there for your loved ones, fuel yourself first, or in addition, so that you can truly give the people you love your energy, passion and love. They will see and feel your light and you will be giving from a place of love rather than a place of feeling tired and depleted.
It's a win win, right?
What is one thing you can do today to Live Red and love yourself first?